Because it was never about the guy; it was always about my God. Waiting in the Starbucks queue I asked Him if my husband could please wear normal trousers and be a tad older than We laughed. And I never needed to ask my initial question again. She has Directed a charity working to fight against modern day slavery, authored two books focused on freedom Untangled and Unlimited , been in pastoral ministry for over 20 years, and is a popular speaker at conferences in the UK and abroad.
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We believe in offering different opinions but will not allow offensive language. For more details read our Comment Guidelines. She then asked if I had ever posed the above question to God. Honestly, being a Christian sometimes is exhausting. I trust You and [meanwhile all of Heaven is yawning just waiting for me to get on with it] … So, okay, right. What should I be doing? It never even crosses my mind.
I believe. And that is enough for me. Be Ruth and trust Him with your Boaz. Javascript not detected. Javascript is required for this site to function. Please enable it in your browser settings and refresh this page. Search Search for: Search. Join Shop Sponsors Contributors Donate. Author Recent Posts.
Tammi Emerson. Tammi Emerson writes about things she's extremely passionate about Besides hanging out with her 5 year old, she loves being outside, volunteering with the church, and meeting new people. Latest posts by Tammi Emerson see all. Close this module. If you have low self-esteem, then you will attract men that will take advantage of that.
If you are needy or have daddy issues then you will attract toxic and emotionally abusive men. And if by chance, you do get a good man even with all of your issues, it will be hard for you to have a healthy relationship because your baggage will be crowding up the entire relationship because it is not dealt with.
And either he will leave or the relationship would just be unbearable. No one wants to take on all the responsibility of your undealt with baggage. No one is perfect. It is a very sad day when I see women who have baggage and they do not even know it.
They swear up and down that they are ready to be in a relationship but they got all of these problems and God knows that if you were to join you with the other person that your issues will just transfer over to them and that is not fair. Which brings me to my next point. I am a woman and I have encountered other toxic women so I can only imagine how some of these men feel when dealing with some of you.
Some of them whine, complain, and yell way too much. And make a mountain over a molehill, every little thing is an issue. For the Bible clearly states:. A constant dripping on a day of steady rain, and a contentious quarrelsome woman are alike; whoever attempts to restrain her [criticism] might as well try to stop the wind, and grasps oil with his right hand. Proverbs Meaning that some of your mouths are wreckless, some of you are doing way too much and do not know how to talk to people.
When you read the Proverbs 31 woman which I recommend all of you do it says this:. The heart of her husband trusts in her [with secure confidence], and he will have no lack of gain.
She comforts, encourages, and does him only good and not evil. All the days of her life. That means you have to ask yourself who you are in a relationship. Can a man trust you? Are you out with other men flirting? If you are toxic energy when you are in a relationship then you need to figure out a way to heal from that as no man wants to be infected with it.
A great place to start would be to check out my video on the type of woman God wants you to be. Which you can watch below. I was a big offender of this. For some reason, women think that it is our purpose to be the ride or die chick even to men who refuse to men. And we somehow feel that this is the true essence of love when that is simply NOT true.
When you read the following Bible verse:. Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful, and is not jealous or envious; love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant.
It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not provoked [nor overly sensitive and easily angered]; it does not take into account a wrong endured. It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail]. Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening].
Although no one is perfect and perhaps we can never find this true form of love we should at least try to both be and find someone that is like this.
So if you keep getting yourself into the wrong type of relationship then God is not going to keep allowing you to hurt your self. Also, check out my video below on when love is not enough.
Leave it to me to keep it real with you. Some of you women have nothing to offer and have the nerve to want the BEST possible man. The fact of the matter is that when God created Eve he created her to be a companion to the man. But for Adam there was not found a helper [that was] suitable a companion for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place.
And the rib which the Lord God had taken from the man He made fashioned, formed into a woman, and He brought her and presented her to the man. Genesis AMP. Relationships are not just about sex, it is not just about a man giving you money, in fact, relationships are NOT all about you.
You have to bring something to a relationship. No one wants to feel used and no one wants to feel like they are getting into a relationship with someone that has nothing to offer. In the book Played or Be Played which you can click here to buy but fair warning it has some profanity in it and I also talk about this in my patron which you can click here and become a member of. He rates women A to F and the F woman are the desperate women that have nothing to offer. The A women are the attractive women that have their life together and have everything to offer which is why they have their choice of men.
Figure out which one you fall into and became an A woman and as I said if you need help doing that then join my patreon. I know some of these tips are not ones that you want to hear but if you are asking yourself why is God keeping me single then you know that the only person you can change is you.
It can be some of these reasons or it can be none of this BUT it is best to always continue working on yourself so that you can both attract and be the ideal partner. If you know someone that may need to read this blog then go ahead and share it with them. If, you are not sure if the book is for you then click here or the picture below to get the first chapter free.
Thank you so much. Why would God destroy our love life to begin with? Especially when there are many of us single good men out there that were hoping to meet the right good woman, and get married and have a family.
But why would being single means that God is destroying your life? Jesus was single, John the Baptist, and Jeremiah was single. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life. But there are a lot of us good men out there that really wanted to get married and have a family.
Why should we be single and alone all the time? I know other friends that are single and really hate to be as well. It is these type of women that will only want the very best of all, and will never ever settle for less. Quite a real change in the women today from the old days, and with so many women now that have their careers making a six figure salary which makes it very difficult for many of us men trying to find love these days unfortunately.
I am sorry you feel that way. This may be an experience that you personally have experienced but of course, not all women are the same. And as I always say we cannot change or blame other people but we can only control ourselves. And if there is a certain type of woman you are prone to attracting then perhaps that is a self-reflection that you need to do. Women should not be punished for wanting to have a career or to want to make money on their own. God placed each person here to live in their purpose and God blesses us all in various ways.
And if it makes you feel a certain type of way once again perhaps that is an internal issue that you need to work on because with all due respect you seem to be blaming the world and external factors which you cannot change.
And believe it or not which i am really telling the truth, and there will be times when women will Curse at us men for no reason at all when we will just say good morning or hello to them. So unfortunately it is these type of very mentally ill women out there that are making it very difficult for us men that really do want to find love. Women in the past were never like these women are today at all, well at least most of the women back then were certainly real ladies and very easy to meet.
That is why it was very easy for our family members finding love with one another at that time,when most women were the very complete opposite of today. A lot of us men unfortunately were just born in the wrong Era.
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